Thursday, September 29, 2016

How to be Fearless













The Joy of Living Dangerously

By Osho

“Life goes on moving with a thousand and one uncertainties. That’s freedom. Don’t call it insecurity.”

-Osho

Why is it that whenever you try something new or go through a change, it’s natural to run the other way in fear. We all feel fear, but only cowards listen to their fears. The brave push through it. The more often you meet fear head on, the easier it is to see it for what it is: an illusion. This book teaches the importance of living in insecurity and loving life to the fullest because to live in security is to live in a prison.

What is Courage? Risking the known for the unknown, the familiar for the unfamiliar, the comfortable for the uncomfortable.

Following rules imposed on you keeps you from being your authentic self. Osho states that rules are made by those who wish to rule over you. The courage to stay on your path means you will fall at times, but if your goal is behind a door you have to knock down a lot of doors before you find the right one.

Keep making mistakes as long as you make each mistake only once. Learn how to live by living life. Osho describes the importance of disregarding bullsh*t rules that are ready made (The 10 commandments for example). The problem with that is that life is always changing. The world is constantly changing. Cowards who are too afraid to live life, love these set rules because that means they don’t have to learn by living life.

Maturity of the Mind is: “looking at life without questions and simply diving into it with courage”



-The Courage of Love

Just as darkness is the absence of light, fear is the absence of love. Most of us in the English speaking world equate love with sex or with some weak emotion. But loving life, loving the world, or loving others cancels out fear.

Osho says, “The more you love, the more you become lovable. The less you love and the more you demand that others should love you.”

The key is to get rid of the belief that you deserve everything without giving anything. Many of us (and I’m guilty of this) walk around mean mugging and get mad when no one reaches out to us. Then the social anxiety increases. I wish I could have learned how to gain courage through self-love years ago, but I am thankful that I’m learning this now.

Take Yourself Out of the Crowd

When you are alone you become your true self. When we are in crowds we become fake.

Osho says, “Just be what you are and don’t care a bit about the world.”

Be yourself despite the fact that society constantly tells you how to “behave.” Society tells you how to dress, how to talk, how to fit in. The moment you expressed yourself when you were a kid, a parent or teacher slapped you down. Instances like that create fear whenever you begin to express yourself.

Osho talks about having your “original face” Live according to your true nature.



The Joy of Living Dangerously

Live in insecurity. To live comfortably is just waiting to die. Yet people trying to live in safety and security act as though they can live forever if they are careful. A prisoner’s life is secure. Seeking security and familiarity is to live like a prisoner.

When people try to take control of their spouse or children, they create security. They let fear of loss control them while silently killing the relationship. There is no person on earth that you own or possess.

To fear life’s storms is to fear personal growth. Comfort makes us soft. People with zero problems life in graveyards. The man or woman that meets a challenge head on grows and gains inner strength.

 Marshall Mathers’ poverty and desperation made him rap with an edge that no one else had. Crazy Horse fought harder than any other Lakota because he believed that he was destined to die in battle. Adversity stretches us even though it hurts.

In Search of Fearlessness

Fearlessness is not repressing your fear, it’s embracing it. Look at you fear and see what an illusion it is.

Kill the ego because it feeds on fear. When I worry about being judged or what others think of me, that’s just my ego seeking approval from others rather than gaining approval from within.

“People full of fear make others afraid so they can rest at ease.”

Just as people who are against their sexual urges often turn out to be perverts, those who are against fear are actually afraid.

Conclusion

To love yourself will cause others to love you. Being full of love kills fear and keeps you from comparing yourself to others. Comparisons feed the ego and the ego feeds your fears. Love yourself from the depths of your heart and kill that fear until it actually dies. Run at the fear and it then you will see how weak it truly is.

Saturday, September 24, 2016

Be the Master of Your Fate
















Based On:


Think and Grow Rich

By

Napoleon Hill

“I am the master of my fate. I am the captain of my soul.”
-William Henley

The power of the mind and the power of one’s thoughts control his or her reality. Negative self-talk is self destruction disguised as humility. When this book was written in was 1937, the Great Depression was in full effect. Americans had a poverty mentality. Their thoughts became reality. Napoleon Hill told his generation that if they changed their attitude, their lives would change for the better.

Desire.
Cut all sources of retreat. If a person has no other option except to achieve their goals, then their focus remains on their mission only. Modern culture tells you “Have a backup plan.” But I like what people like Curtis Jackson say, “Get rich or die trying.” Napoleon Hill describes the concept of DEFINITENESS of PURPOSE. In other words, know what you want and go after it with passion.

Faith/ Auto-Suggestion
“Conduct yourself just as you would as if you would if you were ALREADY IN POSSESSION of the material thing you are demanding.”

Hill describes faith as a state of mind rather than a blind belief in a deity. Faith is the result of repetition of thought that ends up a part of your subconscious. Repetition of thought becomes belief. Belief becomes your reality. This is auto-suggestion. False humility causes people to say, “I’m old,” “I’m not talented,” or “I’m a loser.” If you truly believe that, then you will become that.

Decision
If you are influenced by the opinions of others, you will have no desire of your own.” Be willing to die for your decision. You know where you are going and nothing can sway you.

Persistence
Everyone fails but only a few keep pounding. Fight for your dreams. This means getting rid of negative friends or family. Always expect resistance when you go after your goals. The truly successful people are exactly like the rest of us, but the only difference is that they never give up.

The Mastermind
Henry Ford said, “Men take on the nature, habits, and Power of Thought of those which they associate in a spirit of sympathy and harmony.
Get rid of negative people around you. All they do is drag you down to their level of mediocrity. You ego resists people that you may be jealous of. Don’t listen to the ego, be around people that make you step your game up. They will become your mastermind group.

Six Ghosts of Fear
Six Basic fears are: Poverty, criticism, ill health, loss of a loved one, old age, and death.

Shakespeare said, “Nothing is good or bad. Your thoughts make it so.”

We often speak apologetically of ourselves. This false humility simply feeds these fears. Our minds are programmed to be self-defeating. Fight this by loving yourself from the depths of your heart. Create positive thought loops and worry about seeking approval from yourself and no one else.

Conclusion
Learning to reprogram you mind and focus on achieving your goals takes constant practice. Love yourself totally to the point where the only approval you seek is your own. I’m learning how to de-clutter my mind and I improve daily. I practice realistic thinking (not positive thinking) daily in order to eliminate the self-defeating bull-sh*t that I used to have. Believing that you are destined for wealth and greatness is not positive thinking, it’s realistic conviction.

“I’ve got a grind that won’t stop, a hustle won’t quit. Grind like no other I be on some other sh*t.”

-Tip Harris


R. Schulz


Thursday, September 15, 2016

How to Annihilate Mediocrity





















Based On:

Driven From Within

By

Michael Jordan

Pure Passion. While most people swim in mediocrity, often due to some false sense of humility, Jordan focused on winning. His work ethic could be described as just enjoying what he did more than everyone else. If Jordan worked an ordinary 9-5 job he would be just as lazy and complacent as the other 99% of people.


Earned. Jordan wasn’t a guy with high status growing up in Wilmington, NC.  But that just drove him to prove himself. As a result he outworked everyone else.

As his mother Delores Jordan said,

“Have a passion for what you are doing and work hard…If you have a passion, then you are going to be challenged every day to give your best.”


Uncompromised. Jordan’s success with Nike was about his performance on the court. While players now often get shoe deals before they start playing and underperform as a result, Jordan was more committed to excellence than anyone and demanded the same from his teammates.

Aspirational.  “I had dreams. They were my dreams, and I had no fear of them.”

 How many of us focus on why we can’t achieve our dreams rather than commit fully to fulfilling them? We are easily discouraged by even a single comment when someone “disapproves” of our ambitions.

The difference between average people and Michael Jordan is that we seek to meet others’ expectations. Jordan sought to exceed his own expectations and prove everybody wrong.

Authentic.  “It’s a lot harder to become the best you can be when you’re focused on trying to be the best version of someone else.”

Was Jordan trying to be the next Dr. J, the next Magic Johnson? Neither, he was focused on being the best Michael Jordan he could be. Besides, I doubt Dr. J or Magic would have given up basketball stardom to sleep in a cheap motel with a minor league baseball team.

Beyond. “The one’s that lose their way by jumping on one fad or another, or try to be something other than what or who they are, don’t last long.”

From his work ethic on the court to the Jordan brand itself, his dedication is unmatched.

Conclusion. While most of us tuck our tails and hide when life gets hard, Jordan is more resilient, more committed, more confident, and attacks his goals with tenacity. Michael Jordan is not successful because he is nicer than others and he is not successful because of the false humility that most of us have. His success comes from focus. He never lets the opinions of others distract him. In fact those opinions just motivate him so he can prove you wrong.

-R. Schulz


Wednesday, September 7, 2016

Keys to Power























Based On:

48 Laws of Power



by Robert Greene





-48 Laws of Power is a book that shows how to deal with people, how they think, and how people can easily be manipulated when you appeal to their egos. Why do some people throughout history appear dominant and others seem weak and pathetic? Our ancient ancestors to what they wanted by force, but at some point in history, power was gained by wit and deception rather than brute force.

-Mastering emotions and displaying patience are rare skills. Robert Greene says, “Nothing about power is natural; power is more godlike than anything in the natural world. And patience is a supreme virtue of the gods who have nothing but time.”

-He is saying that the patient man or woman displays control, mastery, and an almost divine ability to endure.

-Below are the 4 laws that meant the most to me.

-Law 4, Always Say Less Than Necessary

-General Coriolanus was a legend to the Romans. When he tried to gain political power, he began to brag and insult the people. Greene says, “The more he said the less powerful he appeared. A person who cannot control his words shows that he cannot control himself.”

-When you remain silent, people don’t know what you’re thinking you become mysterious and intimidating.

- “When you carefully control what you reveal, they cannot pierce your intentions or your meaning.”

-Law 15, Crush Your Enemy Totally

- “To have ultimate victory, you must be ruthless.”

                        -Napoleon Bonaparte

-Greene tells the story of ancient Chinese concubine, Wu Chao who killed her own baby to create suspicion that the empress had murdered the child. The empress was executed and Wu Chao married the emperor.

- “A viper crushed beneath your foot but left alive will rear up and bit you with a double dose of venom. An enemy that is left around is like a half-dead viper that you nurse back to health”

-There are times when compassion for your enemy causes hesitation in eliminating him. Since you can’t murder your enemies in everyday life, ensure that he is totally hopeless and powerless when dealing with you.

-Law 25, Re-Create Yourself.

-Power plus theater. When Julius Caesar became dictator of Rome, he put on magnificent forms of entertainment throughout the empire. His love of theatre manifested in his speeches. He created an image among the Roman public of being larger than life.

-Green says, “Like Caesar, you must be constantly aware of your audience, of what will please them and what will bore them.”

-We are like clay. We can mold ourselves like clay. We define our roles while others allow society to mold them.

-People react to image and perception. Appeal to their nature, their emotions, and their desire to be entertained.

- “Never reveal all your cards at once, but unfolding them in a way that heightens their dramatic effect.”

-Law 48, Assume Formlessness

-Why were the Athenians victorious over the Spartans? While Sparta initially conquered the Athenians in 431 B.C., Athens remained skilled in politics, economics, seafaring, and trade. The Spartans were one dimensional. All they knew was war. The Spartan hold eventually collapsed.

-Greene says, “Learn to move fast and adapt or you will be eaten.”

-Just like water takes the form of whatever is around it, we must be changing, evolving, and unpredictable.

-Be willing to take criticism. Put the ego aside because when we act defensive, we resist a chance to learn. Defensiveness causes us to appear weak and insecure when show our emotions.



Conclusion

-Growing up, we are taught to be weak, suppress anger, and be too nice by society. Teachers, parents, and religious leaders tell us foolish things because they are just as ignorant as we are. Society programs us with advertisements and they influence and manipulate us by using the techniques in this book.

-Robert Greene’s shows how human egos and emotions are influenced. I just listed four of the laws that stood out to me. When you read this, you might be tempted to resist the laws because they go against what we have been taught by society. Just remember that people are manipulators. Be aware of them and do not trust them. Even the greatest leaders throughout history achieved power through deception, manipulation, and theatricality.



-R. Schulz

Friday, September 2, 2016

Your Face is a Shield, Your Heart is Your Spear





















Based On:

Thick Face Black Heart

by Chin-Ning Chu


-What we are Not taught in school is how to develop character or develop confidence. Chin-Ning Chu uses beautiful details and examples of how to sharpen your mind, deal with others, and use Asian techniques to never be taken advantage of.

-Thick-Face=The shield to protect one’s self-esteem from negative opinions. Putting self-doubt aside. (10)

-Black heart= The spear. Taking action without regarding the consequences. A ruthlessness. (13)

-Chin-Ning describes principles of unlearning. Throughout our lives, people in our social circles engrain in us rules of what we are supposed to do and feel. As a result, we constantly seek the approval of others. “In Asia, heroes are not judged for their prowess in hunting and shooting tigers. Rather for their strength and ability to endure the humiliation of being pigs.” (36)

-She is saying that true heroes know the value of putting their egos aside and look foolish in order to achieve their goals. Success only comes at the risk of failure. Know yourself and know your actions, then the opinions of others have zero power over you.

-Dharma is acting in accordance with one’s duty. In other words, good things come to those who fulfil their responsibilities.

-Chin-Ning says, “Failures come about from those who do not exercise the powers of their office according to the requirements of their own destiny” (81)

-Recognizing dharma is to be aware that everything that occurs is a part of your destiny. It is accepting and surrendering to the ebbs and flows of life.

-Winning with Negative Thinking. This concept is based on loving yourself to the point where you accept your flaws, use them, and love.

-She says, “We spend enormous energy attempting to change, rather than focusing on being successful.” (112)

- “When you start labeling your feelings and emotions as being negative by others’ standards, you are judging yourself according to others’ standards.” (126)

-Endurance. Use failure to motivate yourself. Feel happiness from overcoming challenges.

-Think of yourself as being successful. Most people think that they are unworthy. “We do not have to beg; we need only claim that which is ours by right.” (178)

Deception without Deceit. Making yourself valuable. By serving others you make yourself valuable to them. (195)

- “A businessman and a con man both understand the value of deception. The only difference is that the businessman will ultimately deliver the benefits he has promised. The con man will not.” (195)

-Work: The Highest Worship. My favorite quote in this book is, “When an archer’s eye is on the prize rather than the bull’s-eye, he surely will miss the bulls-eye as well as the prize.” (211)

-Thrive Among the Cunning. It is not whether your words or actions are tough or gentle. It is the spirit behind your actions and words that announces your inner state.” (235) You can trust someone if you don’t have to trust him. (237) In other words, anybody that has the potential to get something from you has the potential to take advantage of you.

-Killer Instinct. Chin-Ning quotes the Japanese sword master Miyamoto Musashi who said, “Whatever state of mind you are in, ignore it. Think only of cutting.” (286) To me, this quote shows the importance of controlling your thoughts and not letting them control you.

-Ching-Ning makes an unusual analogy of the killer instinct by comparing it to flipping a pancake. “Watch for the moment just before you throw the pancake in the air to make that perfect landing.” (273)  

-This is the point where the negative voices in your head telling you that you are weak or not good enough are silent because you are only focused on the task at hand.

-Thick Within, Black Within. A concept I’ve never heard before is what she calls accepting your imperfection. Most people are taught to change themselves, but Chin-Ning says, “See yourself as imperfectly perfect. You experience love for your perfection and your imperfection.” (298)

-Be detached. Get what you want by eliminating your neediness towards the object you desire.

-Paths to Thick Face, Black Heart. A 16th century zen monk once said, “Most people try to know more to become more clever every day, whereas I attempt to become more simple and uncomplicated every day.” (318)

-Unlearn the pointless rules and beliefs that society has forced you to believe. Be the master of your own mind.

-The reason why this book is so good is that it destroys the false humility and fear of criticism that many of us in Western culture grow up with. It is difficult to be worry free about others' opinions, but Chin-Ning Chu describes examples and techniques that teach how to dominate your destiny without regard to anyone else’s opinion. This book is for leadership, strategy, and everyday life. Be humble, be confident, and act in your best interests rather than the interests of others.



-R. Schulz